I think the coolest thing I have ever found was a ring in the girls bathroom. For those that don’t know girls usually take off their rings when they are washing their hands. There it was all shiny and perfect. I think I left it there, but at the end of the night it was still there so I took it.
But Karma is a bitch, I loved that ring and wore it everywhere until I lost it. But in my mind I guess it was someone else’s turn to have the fabulous ring.
What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?
We all tell little lies.
“I’m busy next Saturday I can’t go out with you”, when in reality we just want a night in or “No! You haven’t gained that much weight”, to avoid hurting a friends feelings.
Then there are what I call the “proper liars” you don’t realize it at first because you think why would someone lie about something like that? “My mother died” “I’ve been accepted in to a masters program” “I come from Finland”(random confessions of a shopperholic reference). I know these examples are probably to do with the persons self esteem or how they want you to see them but then I even knew a girl that lied she had been hanging out with my aunt and when I asked my aunt, she didn’t know who the girl was. Strange right?
It’s that ability to completely make something up, share it with someone knowing it’s a lie and there is no real reason to tell the lie, that raises a personality red flag to me.
See the examples I give are large lies but it never starts with the large lies it’s always little little lies that are not to spare feelings or get out of awkard situations, but they are to manipulate someone’s perspective. “O yes I went to the same school as you” but they didn’t. I think the lies aim to build a sinister foundation in a relationship or friendship or maybe to give a false sense of camaraderie?
But there can be no foundation or camaraderie based of lies.
What is a word you feel that too many people use?
I know, I know thats technically a word and a phrase but I think that the last 2-3 years everyone has been dating a narcissist who was gas lighting them. I can’t be the only one who now cringes when a break up story begins with “the were such a narcissist, I know everyone says that but they actually were”
Don’t get me wrong there are narcissists and people who gas light others (full disclosure I’m still not sure I could explain to a third grader what both those things actually mean but I digress) but I just don’t think it’s everyone’s ex.
I think the word gained peak popularity when being used referring to Trump. My concern is always when non clinicians give a diagnosis on other people or when clinicians go on tv and give diagnosis on people they have not assessed. Now the assumption my be correct but I think it’s like when we google things and all roads lead to it’s probably cancer leaving out the crucial fact that you are not a doctor and are most likely not in a position to adequately diagnose yourself.
On the other side of the sectrum people lack all accountability to say hey may I dated an asshole and I was not in a space that allowed me to value myself enough to recognize that and leave them. Instead every break up default explanation is “they were such a narcissist” “I was getting gas lit all the time” I mean I’m no doctor but we can’t all be dating gaslighting narcissists right? And if we are then what are we actually talking about?
So yes that is a word or rather a diagnosis i think has been over used almost to the point it has lost significance, which i think actually takes away from those that may actually have been dating a narcissist.
Last few years I’ve had my heartbroken, now I’m ok, I survived.
To the friends that slowly stopped responding until it had been years since we spoke, my heart is always open for you.
To the family members that let me down, some for the first time, some are repeat offenders my heart is broken.
Some showed me that maybe we are not as close as I thought and my wellbeing is not nor has it ever been their concern. I’m disappointed and our relationships will never be the same but I’m ok.
To the man I fell in love with so fast I failed to see I was standing out there alone I wish you well, because you promised me nothing.
If I was forced to wear an outfit over and overall again it would definitely be leggings and a t-shirt, preferably a v-neck. I don’t know if it’s implied but it cannot be sleeveless (I inherited my mother beautiful legs but that came with not so beautiful upper arms). I am also very obsessed with cotton so the t-shirt should be 100% cotton and as much cotton as possible in the leggings. The ballet flat can be leather or suede but if not a well supported vegan leather will also do.
As a curvy woman jeans have never been my go to so when leggings became fashionable in early 2000’s I instantly knew there was no going back for me. My default before leggings was a skirt/dress with tights but then came along the legging which could be casual, dressy and even a little sexy if you got the leather look correct. There was even those years when I was wearing the ripped leggings and let me tell you I have no regrets.
Another reason I would pick leggings is because as a yogi they are perfect for yoga practice as well as all other workout routines. I will say that they are not practical if you just come from a swim there’s a stick/wet factor that occurs but all other workouts go with leggings. I also find legging to be very comfortable when travelling.
I don’t think the t-shirt needs justification, I was a lover of tanks but the white tee is having a moment in my heart. So is the red and black tee but they are all just so comfortable.
The ballet flats, moccasins, pumps or whatever you call them are a staple for me. I remember seeing them in high school and wanting a pair sooo sooo bad but they were expensive so I had to wait. When I finally got some, someone at school made a comment about how they looked like “clown shoes” but they were wrong as were many other comments made about my fashion sense that I now see being called “slaying” or “giving” on Instagram. Yes mama I was ahead of my time with the sequin gold ballet flat but the world caught up.
If I had to wear an outfit over and over again it wold be black leggings, a red or white t-shirt and black or white leather flats because that pretty much what I already wear and feel the most comfortable in.
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