I think my favourite people are the ones that have stepped in as there have been some holes in my life. Stepped in making me laugh, eating lunch with me, making me feel at home in new places, long phone calls with me, helping me move without being asked and accepting me for who I am.
I just asked my partner and he said he is his favourite person, and I’ll be honest had I known that was an option I may have picked myself tooo!
What is your favorite place to go in your city?
My favourite place to go in my city is Jaycee Gardens Park. It is a nice 3k walk to Port Dalhousie where you can walk on the pier and see Toronto as shown in the video below. You also walk past the lake where there are often regattas and I’ve seen so many birds during the summer. It’s also dog and kid friendly.
Are you holding a grudge? About?
I actually started reading a book about boundaries. I’ve had discussions with my sister and it has been communicated that I may let people “take the piss” once in a while. I’m holding a grudge about the treatment I have received from people I think should have cared more for and about me. I try to meet people where they are as I expect to be met where I am but even I sometimes feel like the WTF is going on here from my interactions with people.
I try to forgive but to be honest in the heat of an argument I think it takes me a lot longer than it should to let something go. Oftentimes, I give people chances who end up doing the exact same thing and if I was more religious I would justify it by saying no one is perfect and give others grace but somethings seem intentional to me. Some slights are on purpose or repeated because of the lack of concequencses.
My aunt posted a great meme it said have you ever forgiven and then gotten new information. That’s how I feel, that I forgive then inevitably new information comes forward. So to answer the question yes I am holding a grudge and honestly I probably won’t stop because why did you do that? Why did you say that? Why weren’t you there for me? But while going through the other posts I saw the following quote
“Forgive, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”
What do you listen to while you work?
I religiously listen to podcasts while working. I will occasionally listen to music but podcasts are my default work companion. Once in the full “work zone” I will usually stop paying attention or lower the volume if there’s an interesting discussion amongst coworkers.
Today I forgot my earphones needless to say the walk from the parking lot was gruesome and when I finally sat down my thought was eurghhhhh why me?!??
Well it wasn’t all bad I did that thing where you connect with people infront of you instead of strangers you’ve never met.
I heard some awkward conversions, started some uninteresting ones and what do you know I didn’t die from not having something in my ear all day.
So what do I listen to at work podcasts with a touch of gossip inbetween episodes or ad breaks.
I recently had the bright idea to sign up for a 10K run.
Actually, I’ll start at the beginning.
I started a new job a couple of years ago, and in April, they announced they’d be starting a walk/run club.
I know, I know — those two things don’t really exist together because there’s always a bit of tension between the runners and the walkers. There’s this lingering belief from the runners that they must encourage the walkers to run.
And on the other side, the walkers always feel that pressure to run — even though they were assured they wouldn’t have to.
Then there’s me: I try to walk my own run (the runners will get that joke… I hope).
Somewhere along the way, I learned that group activities often leave a lot to be desired. Always have an exit plan or a distraction that allows you be left alone unless you want to be part of the group. A book used to work great — for the run/walk club earphones do the tricks.
Fast forward — the walk/run club got a little more serious, and eventually the season ended. Then the following year, I was encouraged to run a marathon.
I thought, “Why not?”
When I excitedly told my sister that I was running a marathon, she was shocked.
“You’re running 42K?” she asked.
“Noo, it’s 10K., I proudly told her”
“That’s not a marathon,” she replied.
“Huh? What do you mean?” – Apparently, a marathon is an actual distance and not just a catch-all word for “a really long run.” There went my Olympic dreams.
My first 10K actually went pretty well — I managed to run about 7 of the 10 kilometers. But the second year? I’d been busy.
The work run club was no longer active, and I’d taken a break from the gym for various reasons. I signed up knowing I was just going to walk the whole thing.
I can honestly say I didn’t prepare at all. But as race day got closer, I started to think: maybe I could run a little bit?
Then came the additional pressure: how can I start this run just walking?
So, to save face, I started out running.
Roughly 500 meters in, I realized my body was not ready at all. I knew I had to honour that. I could hear Adriene’s voice in my head — find what feels good, listen to your body.
And so I did. I slowed down to a walk.
That’s when I started paying attention — and observed all the personalities that show up at a 10K run. So here they are:
1. The Friend-Follower – “Whyyyy did I do this? I just want to be in bed scrolling… but I didn’t want to be left out.”
2. The Flopper – sends text: “Hey, I won’t be coming today because insert excuse here.”
3. The Baby – cries from all the noise “Whyyy am I here? Where’s my juice box? Why isn’t YouTube working?”
4. The Pigeons – I still don’t get it. Why don’t they just fly? It makes no sense.
5. Man in the Range Rover – “I have a meeting on Bay Street. Why are all the roads closed??”
6. Runner 1 – “How fast am I going? Can I beat last year’s time? What about [insert arch-nemesis]?”
7. The Professional Runner – “Why do I even bother? Most people here are so inexperienced.”
8. Walker 200 – “Favkkkkk why did I do this?” Looks back to check if anyone is behind them.
9. The Group Runners – “Has anyone seen Michelle? I swear she was just here. We need to take a selfie!”
10. The Influencer Runner – “What’s the right hashtag for this? I want to look flushed but not sweaty. Wait… are we actually doing the whole race? I thought we were just going live at the start and end.”
Those were the thoughts I had during the run.
Honourable mention to the pregnant woman with a push chair who almost fell trying to overtake a slower runner. I won’t lie, I had to laugh — because if I hadn’t walked, I wouldn’t have caught all of this.
By the time I started writing these down, I had already walked nearly 7K.
Now I’m wondering: what will my thoughts be next year… and which runner will I be?
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