Describe one positive change you have made in your life.
Trying to move past that person is an idiot to they may see or think differently from me.
Category Archives: Family and Friends
My Father
Who is the most confident person you know?
We were once at the airport and everyone spotted a well known Zimbabwean singer. Some may say legend but depends on who you ask, either way it was a big deal. You could see that everyone knew who he was and wanted to say something but they were afraid or didn’t know how to do it. This included us, we were pretty excited. Of course I was 9–10 so I’m editorializing but he said stay here and see how it’s done 😂 and just like that he walked up to him, introduced himself and shook his hand.
When he came back we asked “What did you say?” and “What did he say?” And he’s like “I just introduced my self and told him in a fan of your music”. I was in awe because 9 year old me could never and still hadn’t figured out exactly how to talk to strangers but 30 something year old me learnt from the best and there are not many people that intimidate me, rightly or wrongly.
Figure out the root cause
What strategies do you use to cope with negative feelings?
I think the best strategy to cope with negative feelings is figuring out why you are feeling that way. Is it something that has been bubbling up but you have just been ignoring it?
I was watching a video about getting jealous of friends and of course everyone is perfect on the internet and no-one has ever been jealous of a friend or compared themselves with an acquaintance. I, however, could totally relate to that feeling of wondering “What am I doing wrong?” or “How come this hasn’t worked for me?”
I think one thing that is often triggering is having a wonderful or normal day scrolling on your phone, and before you know it, all you can think about is what is wrong with your life. In these situations I think you just need to sit with yourself and reflect, pray or really dig deep to think why did that make me feel bad? Is this something that I actually want, care about or do I just think I want it because someone else has it.
Another thing to consider is what it represents for you; you may see your friend making more money and think that’s what you want but in reality you haven’t realized that you hate your job and desire a change. So you get that negative feeling but it is really nothing to do with that “LinkedIn post” but instead what you are feeling is a desire for change in your life.
I find once you identify what is giving the negative feeling power it’s easier to cope with it. If you don’t know why you are feeling that way it’s easy to drown in that feeling. Lastly the best way to cope with negative feelings is to know that this feeling will pass, nothing is permanent.
White and Connected to the landline
The first computer we had in the house was white and I remember my mum being excited that it was coming and it would be “connected to the internet”.
I didn’t really know what she meant but she seemed excited. When it came we didn’t really know what to do with it, but we quickly learnt how to use the paint application. Did they call it application then? I can’t remember but we started using that and some of the games. I remember solitaire but that may have been later. I also remember mine ball mine something. Till this day I still don’t know how to play that game. You would click, click, click and then boom you couldn’t click any more or the title bomb would explode and you had to restart.
I remember playing with Microsoft word using the word art. All different font all for us to all settle on times new roman or arial. I also remember a special place being set up for the computer, and I know that to do certain things we would have to connect to the landline and the landline would not be working. Something I know to be dial up. I also remember my grandfather making sure or telling us to be careful.
I don’t think understood the importance of the computer but now I as do my work primarily on a computer from anywhere in the world I see it’s importance. I wonder if that will be the same for AI. I’m older than my mum and dad were when they first got a computer but I wonder if they knew it’s significance or they just thought that a cool gadget to have.
My Sekuru AKA Grandfather
He once told me that if you do something, make sure you do it well so that if others do it after you, you will not be ashamed. You will be proud of what you have done despite what comes after.
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