Family and Friends, Life, relationships

First Impressions Matter – Or Do They?

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What’s the first impression you want to give people?

I’m a believer that first impressions matter but I also firmly believe that they are often inaccurate. When I meet people I want them to think I’m nice and hopefully funny. I find that humour makes any situation better.

When you first meet someone you have to be a little careful, they may not “get” you or your sense of humour. That can lead to a bad first impression.

I’ve met people that I thought I would get along with, yet after getting to know them my first impression was completely off. I have also met people who I thought eurghh but alas I was wrong, they turned out to be pretty great.

So I guess I would like to give people an accurate representation of who I am as a first impression.

Life, T Style

The Coolest Thing I Found: A Ring with Karma

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Daily writing prompt
What’s the coolest thing you’ve ever found (and kept)?
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I think the coolest thing I have ever found was a ring in the girls bathroom. For those that don’t know girls usually take off their rings when they are washing their hands. There it was all shiny and perfect. I think I left it there, but at the end of the night it was still there so I took it.

But Karma is a bitch, I loved that ring and wore it everywhere until I lost it. But in my mind I guess it was someone else’s turn to have the fabulous ring.

Podcast, Policy Watch, Politics

TThoughts Podcast – But I think I’m the only one

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What podcasts are you listening to?
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Lately, I’ve been grappling with the sense that the work I produce is slipping into a void, unheard and unacknowledged. I’ve poured time, energy, and passion into exploring topics I believe matter deeply—yet the response often feels like a haunting silence. Listening to TThoughts Podcasts, where a young Black woman boldly shares her political musings, I’m struck by the courage it takes to put ideas out there, regardless of the echo or response.

It feels lonely to question systems, to critique social policies, and to dissect the nuances of political theory without feeling seen or heard. Still, perhaps there’s a deeper meaning in sharing perspectives, even when they seem to go unnoticed. Maybe it’s about planting seeds, sending out ripples we may not immediately see.

This feeling of “shouting into the void” reminds me that building awareness and change, especially on complex issues, can be a quiet, slow process. Maybe it’s okay if my voice, and the voices of others like me, reach just one person today and another tomorrow. One day, those small connections may turn the quiet into a resonant call for change.

With Love from ChatGPT

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Urban Garden 2024

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I’m not really a plant person. I love nature but I didn’t really think much of keeping plants. My mum started getting one or two plants but I didn’t really pay it any mind until someone at work was moving and they were giving away plants. I thought mmmm my mum would probably like it, not realizing I would love this plant. The garden crouton. We have had it for like 3 years. It was getting thin but I think it was lack of sunlight. We all need a little light.

Our aloe vera had a flower last year. We didn’t know an aloe Vera can have a flower but it did.

Our African Bush Lily finally had a flower after about two years. It started as two stalks now they are 5 or 8.

Our pepper didn’t bear any fruit this year but it has for about 5 years I believe. Last year they had some weird bugs and this year nothing.

Some plants died, some were eaten by Lolah but generally they are doing pretty well.

Life, relationships

Lying

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What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?

We all tell little lies.

“I’m busy next Saturday I can’t go out with you”, when in reality we just want a night in or “No! You haven’t gained that much weight”, to avoid hurting a friends feelings.

Then there are what I call the “proper liars” you don’t realize it at first because you think why would someone lie about something like that? “My mother died” “I’ve been accepted in to a masters program” “I come from Finland”(random confessions of a shopperholic reference). I know these examples are probably to do with the persons self esteem or how they want you to see them but then I even knew a girl that lied she had been hanging out with my aunt and when I asked my aunt, she didn’t know who the girl was. Strange right?

It’s that ability to completely make something up, share it with someone knowing it’s a lie and there is no real reason to tell the lie, that raises a personality red flag to me.

See the examples I give are large lies but it never starts with the large lies it’s always little little lies that are not to spare feelings or get out of awkard situations, but they are to manipulate someone’s perspective. “O yes I went to the same school as you” but they didn’t. I think the lies aim to build a sinister foundation in a relationship or friendship or maybe to give a false sense of camaraderie?

But there can be no foundation or camaraderie based of lies.

Tigere Tese – Black Political Theory