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Exactly Where I am Supposed to Be

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Is your life today what you pictured a year ago?

There are things that I constantly think I have to do, ways my life will go but even when the universe shows me it has its own agenda, I still plan and plan.

I have a journal that tracks my thoughts, that I should be able to use but I forgot it at home so I can’t see exactly what dream I had last year. Let me think, I think, I joked I would be at the Christmas market plus one but instead I will be at the Christmas markets plus one.

In the past year I’ve had some disappointments and some successes, but honestly I think 2025 was a very laid back year. 2023 and 2024 were emotionally exhausting. Yes I could have done more but I didn’t, I’m trying to move at my own pace and give myself grace for what I did do. So I’ll assess if my life today is what I pictured a year ago.

Family – I’m realizing that family is not a fixed thing, it evolves as you do. It expands and contracts. I didn’t think mine would grow from the ones I grew up with, but it did and come what may I’m happy about it.

Career – I think I’m coasting. I could do more but I have no real interest and in part it could be because I have not been bold. I have not asked for more nor have I taken any risks. I am slowly becoming fat off the hog or should I say complacent with my golden handcuffs?

Friends – I’m reassessing many friendships and wondering if they still fulfill me outside of thinking we have been friends for ages. But on the other hand it seems almost impossible to make new friends and any attempts in doing so are met with “let’s meet up” then never come to fruition. I’ve also found my self thinking do I actually like this person or do they actually like me?

Wellness – Emotionally I think I am better than I have been in a long time yet I’m physically failing. I am still walking Lolah everyday but the gym had been hit and miss.

Creative Pursuits – I have ideas, oh sooo many ideas but the execution is always delayed.

Am I where I thought I would be last year? Well I’m in the correct country, with the right person, writing this blog so no not exactly but I know I am exactly where I am supposed to be.

P.S. I worked out this morning so I know I’ll get back to peak wellness

Life

Traditions in my Shona Family

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Write about a few of your favorite family traditions.

We are always joking around in my family so whenever we are waiting for big news to take that edge off we never give the good news right away. We always pretend it’s the opposite then it takes a couple of attempts to figure out is it really bad news or is it really good news.

It’s good because when it’s actually bad news you have a little hope that noo they will tell me the truth eventually and if it turns out to actually be bad you have almost numbed the shock a little bit.

O another little tradition that we have recently stopped because somehow we are all “adult adults” is because we travel a lot we “take” each others things right before the trip and you don’t realize till you get to where you are going that 😮 “our” favourite is perfume is gone. Others may call that “theft” we call that affection to be returned on another trip

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Grace

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What is the greatest gift someone could give you?

I think the greatest gift someone can give me is grace. What do I mean by grace I think in friendship it means knowing all my “stuff” and still showing up for me regardless.

In love it means knowing my weakness, fears and hopes and aligning our relationship in a way that caters to that.

With family it’s knowing that while we started together we may end up in different places and with different opinions but those blood ties still have a place in the new destination.