What was the best compliment you’ve received?
I was walking to get lunch and a lady who I believe was Jamaican to me “Your skin is cleannnn do you use black soap?” I told her no but o my I smiled the rest of the day. Black people will understand the gravity of that compliment especially from a Jamaican 😓☺️ let the record show I did not have an ounce of make on my face 😏
What strategies do you use to cope with negative feelings?
I think the best strategy to cope with negative feelings is figuring out why you are feeling that way. Is it something that has been bubbling up but you have just been ignoring it?
I was watching a video about getting jealous of friends and of course everyone is perfect on the internet and no-one has ever been jealous of a friend or compared themselves with an acquaintance. I, however, could totally relate to that feeling of wondering “What am I doing wrong?” or “How come this hasn’t worked for me?”
I think one thing that is often triggering is having a wonderful or normal day scrolling on your phone, and before you know it, all you can think about is what is wrong with your life. In these situations I think you just need to sit with yourself and reflect, pray or really dig deep to think why did that make me feel bad? Is this something that I actually want, care about or do I just think I want it because someone else has it.
Another thing to consider is what it represents for you; you may see your friend making more money and think that’s what you want but in reality you haven’t realized that you hate your job and desire a change. So you get that negative feeling but it is really nothing to do with that “LinkedIn post” but instead what you are feeling is a desire for change in your life.
I find once you identify what is giving the negative feeling power it’s easier to cope with it. If you don’t know why you are feeling that way it’s easy to drown in that feeling. Lastly the best way to cope with negative feelings is to know that this feeling will pass, nothing is permanent.
My favourite physical activities are swimming and walking my dog. I used to think I was cheating my dog when I missed her walks, but I have now realized that I wasn’t only cheating her — I was also cheating myself. Those morning walks with my dog help me get some steps in, which is really important for someone who sits while working or works from home. Now when I see my little dog’s face saying, “Let’s go already,” I also think to myself: yes, let’s go — We both deserve to go outside and get some fresh air.
Swimming is amazing because I love the water, but I always have to schedule it around my wash day. As a Black woman, it’s hard to go swimming every day because black hair is dry. Well, at least mine is. so swimming daily would probably damage my hair. I’ve figured out a routine that works: if I go swimming on Saturday night, I put in some leave-in conditioner and then I don’t wash my hair until Sunday afternoon. this allows me to go swimming twice a week and after my second swim I can just wash my hair and reset for the next week.
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Are you holding a grudge? About?
I actually started reading a book about boundaries. I’ve had discussions with my sister and it has been communicated that I may let people “take the piss” once in a while. I’m holding a grudge about the treatment I have received from people I think should have cared more for and about me. I try to meet people where they are as I expect to be met where I am but even I sometimes feel like the WTF is going on here from my interactions with people.
I try to forgive but to be honest in the heat of an argument I think it takes me a lot longer than it should to let something go. Oftentimes, I give people chances who end up doing the exact same thing and if I was more religious I would justify it by saying no one is perfect and give others grace but somethings seem intentional to me. Some slights are on purpose or repeated because of the lack of concequencses.
My aunt posted a great meme it said have you ever forgiven and then gotten new information. That’s how I feel, that I forgive then inevitably new information comes forward. So to answer the question yes I am holding a grudge and honestly I probably won’t stop because why did you do that? Why did you say that? Why weren’t you there for me? But while going through the other posts I saw the following quote
“Forgive, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”
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