What was the best compliment you’ve received?
I was walking to get lunch and a lady who I believe was Jamaican to me “Your skin is cleannnn do you use black soap?” I told her no but o my I smiled the rest of the day. Black people will understand the gravity of that compliment especially from a Jamaican 😓☺️ let the record show I did not have an ounce of make on my face 😏
Who is the most confident person you know?
We were once at the airport and everyone spotted a well known Zimbabwean singer. Some may say legend but depends on who you ask, either way it was a big deal. You could see that everyone knew who he was and wanted to say something but they were afraid or didn’t know how to do it. This included us, we were pretty excited. Of course I was 9–10 so I’m editorializing but he said stay here and see how it’s done 😂 and just like that he walked up to him, introduced himself and shook his hand.
When he came back we asked “What did you say?” and “What did he say?” And he’s like “I just introduced my self and told him in a fan of your music”. I was in awe because 9 year old me could never and still hadn’t figured out exactly how to talk to strangers but 30 something year old me learnt from the best and there are not many people that intimidate me, rightly or wrongly.
What strategies do you use to cope with negative feelings?
I think the best strategy to cope with negative feelings is figuring out why you are feeling that way. Is it something that has been bubbling up but you have just been ignoring it?
I was watching a video about getting jealous of friends and of course everyone is perfect on the internet and no-one has ever been jealous of a friend or compared themselves with an acquaintance. I, however, could totally relate to that feeling of wondering “What am I doing wrong?” or “How come this hasn’t worked for me?”
I think one thing that is often triggering is having a wonderful or normal day scrolling on your phone, and before you know it, all you can think about is what is wrong with your life. In these situations I think you just need to sit with yourself and reflect, pray or really dig deep to think why did that make me feel bad? Is this something that I actually want, care about or do I just think I want it because someone else has it.
Another thing to consider is what it represents for you; you may see your friend making more money and think that’s what you want but in reality you haven’t realized that you hate your job and desire a change. So you get that negative feeling but it is really nothing to do with that “LinkedIn post” but instead what you are feeling is a desire for change in your life.
I find once you identify what is giving the negative feeling power it’s easier to cope with it. If you don’t know why you are feeling that way it’s easy to drown in that feeling. Lastly the best way to cope with negative feelings is to know that this feeling will pass, nothing is permanent.
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What movies or TV series have you watched more than 5 times?
Honestly the list goes on but those are a few close to my heart
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