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Leggings and a t-shirt and some ballet flats – Lifetime outfit of a youngish black millennial

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If you were forced to wear one outfit over and over again, what would it be?
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If I was forced to wear an outfit over and overall again it would definitely be leggings and a t-shirt, preferably a v-neck. I don’t know if it’s implied but it cannot be sleeveless (I inherited my mother beautiful legs but that came with not so beautiful upper arms). I am also very obsessed with cotton so the t-shirt should be 100% cotton and as much cotton as possible in the leggings. The ballet flat can be leather or suede but if not a well supported vegan leather will also do.

As a curvy woman jeans have never been my go to so when leggings became fashionable in early 2000’s I instantly knew there was no going back for me. My default before leggings was a skirt/dress with tights but then came along the legging which could be casual, dressy and even a little sexy if you got the leather look correct. There was even those years when I was wearing the ripped leggings and let me tell you I have no regrets.

Another reason I would pick leggings is because as a yogi they are perfect for yoga practice as well as all other workout routines. I will say that they are not practical if you just come from a swim there’s a stick/wet factor that occurs but all other workouts go with leggings. I also find legging to be very comfortable when travelling.

I don’t think the t-shirt needs justification, I was a lover of tanks but the white tee is having a moment in my heart. So is the red and black tee but they are all just so comfortable.

The ballet flats, moccasins, pumps or whatever you call them are a staple for me. I remember seeing them in high school and wanting a pair sooo sooo bad but they were expensive so I had to wait. When I finally got some, someone at school made a comment about how they looked like “clown shoes” but they were wrong as were many other comments made about my fashion sense that I now see being called “slaying” or “giving” on Instagram. Yes mama I was ahead of my time with the sequin gold ballet flat but the world caught up.

If I had to wear an outfit over and over again it wold be black leggings, a red or white t-shirt and black or white leather flats because that pretty much what I already wear and feel the most comfortable in.

Podcast, Black Politics, Politics

TThoughts Podcast – Can anybody hear me?

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What do you do to be involved in the community?

This post seems very timely as it is the anniversary of my podcast. Happy 6th birthday to my podcast, yes I promise this is connected to my contribution to my community. I wrote a while ago about how it’s hard to stay consistent in content creation and that has been true not only in my blogging but in the recording of my podcast. 

I love reading and to be fair after university it has become difficult to read fiction. I primarily read non-fiction and so most of what I read I feel the arrogant need to share with others for their own good. At some point I realized that unlike at university life is not a seminar and generally people are not interested in debating or learning more. The only people that may be interested in debating you are on twitter and to be fair they are not doing so in good faith nor are they actually interested in the ideas you are trying to share. 

I read a few things and listened to a lot of podcasts and my conclusion is explained best by Seneca who says “I am acting on behalf of later generations. I am writing down a few things that may be of use to them.” The older I got I realized that as a black woman there are so many things that I did not know that impact my life, my community and a little guidance may have prevented a lot of things or at least helped in the understanding of many things. So while I was learning more things about finances, voting, colorism or just nutrition, I figured I would write down what I am learning because even though people may not be open to what I have learnt at the moment there will come a time when they will be and at that point I would have written and recorded a few things for them.

My contribution to my community is the things I am learning and even though if often feels like it is falling on deaf ears, I continue because of the chance that a young black woman may wish to know why is it important to budget, hold political parties accountable and so she knows that someone grappled with the same questions and they took some notes for her to use, update or disregard. 

My involvement in my community is sharing knowledge that they may not realize they need yet.

Black Politics, Life, Politics, women

Ode to a Single Mother – The Settle Down Selections 

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Daily writing prompt
What’s a topic or issue about which you’ve changed your mind?
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Our fathers have passed

Our fathers have left

Our mothers have tried

Our mothers stood tall

Now the world says we should be ashamed

O no, that I will not do

I will not feel shame about the one that raised me, raised me against all odds

O no definitely not, for I know that woman is a queen

O no I am not sorry, I am not ashamed I was raised by a single mother

Our fathers have failed

Our fathers are gone

Our mothers have tried

Our mothers have stood tall

Black Politics, Life, Politics, women

Nose Rings – An Intro to the Settle Down Selections

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So I just spent this morning reading a Twitter thread about why Zimbabwean men would never marry a woman with a nose ring. I will give a few of the justifications that were “given”

1. Those nose piercings and tattoos are a symbolic statement of a certain belief like satanism

2. Lol I use to say that…Learnt the hard way…She can be a good person clubbing hard, but that does not mean you should marry her. You will raise the kids in the club.

3. Yes, l think it’s high time Zim men have an open mind when it comes to women. A nose ring does not mean she is a whore, in church there are sometimes women without nose rings and they are whoring like crazy! 🤣

4. It’s associated with the street and wildness (or most people who used to do it were for the streets). So it gives us nerves and fear as if we took a whore for a wife. Otherwise it shouldn’t be a thing.

5. I personally wouldn’t. Im sure some of them are great people but the ones I knew who were into that were very wild and loose…The stereotype unfortunately stuck.

6. That’s a sign that she belongs to the streets…

7. Nope,no tattoos,no drinking….🚩🚩 Most definitely no smoking

8. Nose ring signifies potent cock sucking skills so no for me

9. I want it as bad as earrings, but I’m not a whore. I will wait till after marriage then do it

10. Would you be comfortable to introduce her to your mother? If the answer is yes, go ahead.

If this is our mindset on nose rings and we have not even touched on religion, politics, class or family values pray tell how are we going settle down?

Thoughts?