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What have you been working on?

I’ve been working on being a better person. That has included accepting the bad, the good and the in-between.

It’s also just meant accepting that the vision I have of some perfect future me may never actualize and the existing version is just fine.

I’m considering what relationships still serve me, wondering why I hold on to the ones that do not. Wondering if I give people chances out of compassion or out of fear that I may need that grace in the future.

Fear has showed itself a lot in my quest to be better, I never thought there was anything I couldn’t do but I think as you get older life shows you that there is much to fear.

So I guess I’ve been working on the fear that this may be as good as it gets and acknowledging no accepting that’s ok?

Black Politics, Life, Politics, women

Ode to a Single Mother – The Settle Down Selections 

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Daily writing prompt
What’s a topic or issue about which you’ve changed your mind?
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Our fathers have passed

Our fathers have left

Our mothers have tried

Our mothers stood tall

Now the world says we should be ashamed

O no, that I will not do

I will not feel shame about the one that raised me, raised me against all odds

O no definitely not, for I know that woman is a queen

O no I am not sorry, I am not ashamed I was raised by a single mother

Our fathers have failed

Our fathers are gone

Our mothers have tried

Our mothers have stood tall

Black Politics, Life, Politics, women

Nose Rings – An Intro to the Settle Down Selections

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So I just spent this morning reading a Twitter thread about why Zimbabwean men would never marry a woman with a nose ring. I will give a few of the justifications that were “given”

1. Those nose piercings and tattoos are a symbolic statement of a certain belief like satanism

2. Lol I use to say that…Learnt the hard way…She can be a good person clubbing hard, but that does not mean you should marry her. You will raise the kids in the club.

3. Yes, l think it’s high time Zim men have an open mind when it comes to women. A nose ring does not mean she is a whore, in church there are sometimes women without nose rings and they are whoring like crazy! 🤣

4. It’s associated with the street and wildness (or most people who used to do it were for the streets). So it gives us nerves and fear as if we took a whore for a wife. Otherwise it shouldn’t be a thing.

5. I personally wouldn’t. Im sure some of them are great people but the ones I knew who were into that were very wild and loose…The stereotype unfortunately stuck.

6. That’s a sign that she belongs to the streets…

7. Nope,no tattoos,no drinking….🚩🚩 Most definitely no smoking

8. Nose ring signifies potent cock sucking skills so no for me

9. I want it as bad as earrings, but I’m not a whore. I will wait till after marriage then do it

10. Would you be comfortable to introduce her to your mother? If the answer is yes, go ahead.

If this is our mindset on nose rings and we have not even touched on religion, politics, class or family values pray tell how are we going settle down?

Thoughts?